Today, society advocates transparency, to be welcoming and opening. It also advocates that people should be nice, trustworthy and hard working members of society. In our generation we strive to be successful, to be viewed as progressive all the while keeping our friends close.
Friends, come in all shapes and sizes. For me, (and I emphasis for me) friends are not necessarily the most trustworthy and nicest people I know. Its not to say I don't trust my friends, but its not the pre requisite. Friends should be interesting, engaging, challenging and loyal. They don't need to agree, don't need to agreeable and certainly don't need to be nice to me.
I find myself suspicious of the nicest people, The really open people, the ones who portrays that they are nice and wants to be seen as nice people. Of course everyone wants to be seen as nice and be accepted but apparently, I'm more likely to be friends with people who aren't.
Don't look at me like that, I just find them hard to understand, that there are people who are hiding nothing.
People who claims that they themselves are horrible people, understand their own flaws and knows why they're not 'poster grade' people. They are more likely to understand the flaws in others and understand that people aren't perfect. At least I know they're not trying to hide all their flaws. They're comfortable enough to say, I'm not perfect and you're going to have to deal with it.
In many ways, I don't think 'nice people' are so accepting of such flaws.
Tumblr, despite everything it set itself to be, devolved into everything but. The community of Tumblr is not unlike society itself. We expect so much from the everyday people in the street. Similar to what tumblr expects from its members, society expects everyone to be nice, full of hope, inspiring and all those other great things we learn about in primary and high school. 4Chan at the very least, is exactly what it claims itself to be. Whilst its not the most positive community on the internet, it doesn't claim to be. It doesn't set up unfair expectations on its members to follow. This self serving community, has no illusions of perfection. They don't set out to be perfect and are in doing so, can be considered more accepting.
A lot of us don't have a lot of time for anyone but ourselves. When we're not studying, we're at work. When we're not at work, we're browsing Facebook and the internet, looking for whats wrong with our friends and society. And if its not a birthday, a group dinner or something like that, we're probably not going to go out. It is so easy, to find flaws, when we've been taught to find them from day one.
Its easy to expect perfection. Harder still to accept it when its not there.
~TastyJacks~
Don't look at me like that, I just find them hard to understand, that there are people who are hiding nothing.
People who claims that they themselves are horrible people, understand their own flaws and knows why they're not 'poster grade' people. They are more likely to understand the flaws in others and understand that people aren't perfect. At least I know they're not trying to hide all their flaws. They're comfortable enough to say, I'm not perfect and you're going to have to deal with it.
In many ways, I don't think 'nice people' are so accepting of such flaws.
Tumblr, despite everything it set itself to be, devolved into everything but. The community of Tumblr is not unlike society itself. We expect so much from the everyday people in the street. Similar to what tumblr expects from its members, society expects everyone to be nice, full of hope, inspiring and all those other great things we learn about in primary and high school. 4Chan at the very least, is exactly what it claims itself to be. Whilst its not the most positive community on the internet, it doesn't claim to be. It doesn't set up unfair expectations on its members to follow. This self serving community, has no illusions of perfection. They don't set out to be perfect and are in doing so, can be considered more accepting.
A lot of us don't have a lot of time for anyone but ourselves. When we're not studying, we're at work. When we're not at work, we're browsing Facebook and the internet, looking for whats wrong with our friends and society. And if its not a birthday, a group dinner or something like that, we're probably not going to go out. It is so easy, to find flaws, when we've been taught to find them from day one.
Its easy to expect perfection. Harder still to accept it when its not there.
~TastyJacks~
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